Woke up at 5:30am to my 14 year old son in hysterics and crying super hard,advise?

OK i kept hearing noises from my son's room so i got up to check on him. And he is in hysterics crying and just like out of it. he wont tell me whats going on and i have tried rubbing his back and talking calmly to him to try and calm him but it dose not work. I am not sure what to do i have never seen him like this before, advise?Woke up at 5:30am to my 14 year old son in hysterics and crying super hard,advise?
Loads of options here.





As others have said, the most important thing is 1) to make sure he hasn't been hurt physically and 2) to make sure he knows that you are there and support him, period.





The one thing I don't think anyone has mentioned has to do with his physicality. Drugs? Not in my HO, but I don't know and can't discount that. But to me, it could be he's going through changes-- this is the time of puberty, of changing hormones... of wet dreams (has he had all of this actually explained to him? Would things happening in the night without his knowledge, while he's asleep, scare him?), of growing pains, of raging hormones and mood swings for no particular reason.





All of this can also lead to scary, unfocused dreams. It could be a school bully, something that he's dreading looking forward to, something that he's worried about... Does he have a history of night terrors? Could that be happening to him now, even if he doesn't?





If you can't get him to calm down long enough to talk to you in about 10 minutes, you need to get OUTSIDE advice... not from us here!





And most importantly, although it's his decision how to handle... you must NOT let him sweep this under the rug.





Take careWoke up at 5:30am to my 14 year old son in hysterics and crying super hard,advise?
i had a godawful dream when i was 16 and cried for hours as a result. bring him some water, tell him to stop crying long enough to drink it. make sure that you turn on a lamp or something but not the overhead light. just keep telling him it's ok and that you're here for him. ask him if he's rather you stay or if he would like some time alone and grant his wishes. if he asks you to leave tell him you will be right outside and stay outside. wait a while and check in on him periodically. it could be a dream or it could be something else and since young people are prone to hurt themselves when they are upset, you need to make sure he's ok without crowding him too much. once he has stopped crying ask him to talk about it and let him know that you respect his privacy but want to make sure he is ok.
Has your family life been difficult? Does your son seem to have depression? If so, I would think he was having a nightmare or at least thinking about something disturbing. These things do happen; people are never ';too old'; for nightmares.





If not, it most likely has something to do with school. Though, know that some kids cry by thinking about things out of the blue, like losing a grandparent soon (or maybe he already has lost one), things that they've learned about in school (I had a nightmare about the holocaust), etc.





He's fourteen years old, though. I'm sure he's old enough to eventually tell you.
I think the problem is likely over a girl. He probably feels very eembarrassed about something or has been ';stabbed in the back'; by someone he thought was his friend. Teenagers as you know have many emotions, give him some space and if he does not want to talk then leave him be. If his attitude does not change then you as a parent should step in a seek out the issue. But he can probably figure this out himself.
Just be kind and patient with him and keep a close eye on him. It most likely might be some problem at school, maybe a girlfriend or a bully, harrasment, drugs. Whatever it is, just be kind about the situation and be open to hear him out. Let him know that you're there as a parent.
Being a 14 year old boy, im thinking its most likely its got something to do with school.





Maybe a bully?





Is he usually like this? I think you should phone the school and ask the teachers if he has been different lately. If your son is refusing to talk, it is probably a bully. Kids tend to bottle up and dont realise there is help available.





I cant think of anything else it could be.
pROBALY A BULLY AT SCHOOL OR ONLINE. dID ANYONE GET IN THE HOUSE. MAN THATS HARD. jUST BE QUITE AND rub his back spend day with him. After rubbibng his back say get a shower were going to breakfast, Try to act like its okayt hes not talking. Then be talking about nothing things. He may open up a little at a time. But say once I am here and i hurt that you hurt and when your ready I would listen. Then do nopt give advice ask hin what he did about that. He wont tell you as he is scared of what might be done. MAN!!!! I feel for him and you!! Just listen and spend time. ASk him if he would like to go do.... Something that requires you in the car for awhile or sitting and having to talk,
well, if he doesnt want to tell you, you cant make him. But show him you care and just keep at what your doing. Its his choice how he handles it, but let him know your always there for him and he can turn to you if he wants to. good luck!
it could be alot of things!!!! maybe he is exstreamly depressed or maybe someone slipped him some drugs or maybe he took some drugs or maybe he had a nerveness breakdown or he could be just in alot of pain!!!
If he will not speak to you due to his hysteria you should call 911 and have him taken to the ER for an evaluation.
Nightmare maybe, but he is rather old. Maybe he is hurt, turn on the light and look at him, maybe he fell out of bed.
take him to a doctor
well why dont you ask him. 14 is quite old. i had a job and everything when i was 14. ask him what his problem is. probably on drugs or something, or some girl dumped him. how do we know..
Swine Influenza, Cold, Fever, Hysteria, good old fashion nightmares.
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